Thursday, June 30, 2011

Facebook stati

How crazy is it that Facebook has infiltrated my mind to the point where I'm coming up with random stati (statuses?) before I even need them. Compound that with the fact that I post a status at most once a month and this is just dumbfounding. Nevertheless:

Good things come in 3s!

M's 30th birthday gift: a baby boy!

Our 1st Anniversary gift: a baby boy!

Spending our anniversary with my 2 favorite boys!

30 years ago M was born; one year ago we got married; today we are blessed with a baby boy! <3 my boys!

*This week M turns 30 and we have our 1st anniversary, now we'll just have to wait and see if Baby Boy arrives as well and any of these are actually relevant to use.

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Ready

I'm ready. Before I was ready to be done being pregnant. Now I'm ready to meet Baby Boy!
There are a few things on my list I didn't finish, but somehow that doesn't bother me too much; they will get done at some point. Everything for the little munchkin though is definitely ready for his arrival.
I've had some nervous thoughts about labor. I'm not sure which I fear more an induction or c-section. I guess the former is a fear for the present (will it work? will Baby be under distress? will it be horribly painful? will I end up with a c-section anyway?). The latter is a fear for the future (how will I manage recovery? will it put future pregnancies in jeopardy?) Either way, that is my only real concern.
Then I've had on and off thoughts that it's our last days of being "just the two of us" and maybe I'm not taking advantage of them to the fullest.
But mostly, I'm ready. I want to meet him, and see what he looks like, and what temperament he has, and when his birthday will be! And so, I'd really like labor to start- now!

(today is my newest due date apropo)

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Pregnancy Fiction

I'm a little lazy to write reviews for these, but I will say this: all are easy, breezy chick lit that have to do with pregnancy and I liked them all. The first one is the best, IMHO.





Monday, June 27, 2011

Breastfeeding Made Simple


This book is excellent! Quite obviously the writers have an agenda- for you to breastfeed as long as possible- and that's something you have to put up with throughout the book. But, it is extremely detailed, shows specific techniques and is very informative on all aspects of nursing. In particular, I appreciated the citations of scholarly research. Now, the litmus test will be if it's actually helpful. Only time will tell.

Friday, June 24, 2011

9 months

Ok, so to tell the truth I'm not exactly sure when you can say you are 9 months pregnant- is it at the beginning of the last month? or when you're due? Either way, I feel like I'm done being pregnant.
Baby Boy wants to come out. He's sitting low, pushing on the va-j-j like nobody's business. I thought the incessant need to use the toilet was supposed to get better at the end, but it has gotten way worse. When he's not weighing on my stomach like a ton of bricks, he's kicking the heck out of my right side. I'm sorry to inform you Baby: there is no side Exit.
Meanwhile I officially feel like a fat pregnant lady. When I sit forward, my stomach actually sits on my legs, which I find extremely gross. (I'm sorry to be rude fat people: but I don't know how you do it, just ick). And I developed a waddle- so much so that M was scared of me having an "accident" in Costco from walking the length of the store.
For the last of the TMI I will add that I've been having menstrual-like cramps for the past week. My only hope is that this means things are moving along. We are trudging through the last of the tasks and hopefully will be done today. Today!
(at 37.5 or 38 weeks, depending on how we're counting)

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Hookin' up the Crib

We got a crib. The night before we were going to go shopping* and pick one out, a friend emailed me that she heard through the Wives grapevine that I hadn't gotten one yet and would I be interested in hers. Well, we went over the next day- met her husband, saw the crib, called a third friend with a truck, completed the transaction and got the crib home. Might I add, we also got the mattress, breathable bumper and sheets, so it was a pretty good deal. The only work we might need to do is secure the "drop-side" part of it; it doesn't work anyway but I would like to bolt it in a little better just to be safe. For the time being though, the baby won't be moving too much and that side will be against the wall.

So now we have a crib in our living room. This morning we had a brainstorming session because my measurements for putting the crib in our bedroom were off. Or rather, the crib is bigger than I thought it would be. This time we went old school- a measuring tape, a piece of paper, and us sitting on the bed trying to come up with every possible configuration. We tried everything; we were ready to get rid of our nightstands, or remove my closet door, or make tiny passageways, but nothing was working. Until M had a brilliant idea- put the bed diagonally. And he credits me with not brushing him off, but I sketched it out, and it looks like it's going to work!

Now we have to wait to hear news from the doctor. If I'm having a C-section, we're not going to move the crib in, but rather bring up one of our twin beds and co-sleep for the first week or so until I can comfortably get out of bed. If I get the green light for a natural birth then, we'll be going into our diagonal configuration. Either way, I'm excited that we have our biggest missing purchase completed, and a plan in place.

*Our "last stuff for baby" shopping trip ended up with a couple more outfits, a new Sam's club membership [which landed us with], foam floor tiles, and (most impulsively) a pool. Yes, a pool: that takes up our whole patio, that we bought on the last day of "hot season", i.e. the first day of "rainy season".

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

The Best Compliment

The best compliment to give a pregnant woman is: "You don't look pregnant from the back". I loved hearing it at 20 weeks and I love it even more at 36. It's a nice way of saying, "you're not a fat ass", even though I'm pretty sure my ass did get fatter. But I'll take it. :)

*In second place, as conceited as it sounds, "your face didn't get fat".

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Monday, June 20, 2011

On Time?

Throughout the last 9 months I've been mostly positive that Baby Boy would be right on time or late. This was mostly based on the premise that it's my first pregnancy. (In my head if he took after me, he would arrive on time; if he took after his daddy, he would be a little late). Then I decided he would be 3 days early (by my calculation, putting him 1 day late by the doctor's calculation). That would be an ideal time, and frankly our house guests are banking on it. Recently, however, I've become acutely aware that Baby Boy might very well be coming early. Like any day now early. And that lit a fire under my ass (excuse the language). So I am desperately working through my to-do list, and trying to get it all done. Fast.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Toy Ribbons

A long time ago, I'm not sure when exactly, I saw a blog post about making your own toy ribbons: those little things that attach on one end to the stroller or car seat, and on the other end to a pacifier or toy you don't want to lose. Frankly it was a while back when I read this- I may have not even been pregnant yet; but for some reason, this idea stuck in my mind, and I decided that when the time came I would make some ribbons.
Back when we were in the States, I picked up some cute grosgrain ribbon and a pack of snaps with a little kit at Hobby Lobby, and recently I finally got around to putting the snaps on the ribbons, and ta dah! It was such an easy project, and I know I'll be able to make more if we need them.



Thursday, June 16, 2011

Birth

I've mostly been avoiding this whole part of the having a baby thing- giving birth. A few of the Wives here have had babies in Mexico and they all had lots of stories to share. One in particular ended with a "Franken-vaj"; I could not make this up if I wanted to. From February to April, when we got together for regular 5k walks at Colomos Park, I heard more than I ever wanted. But I wasn't ready to do much with the information.

Since then, I've been given the name of a recommended doula by a friend, given the information for a natural birth class by a lady on the plane back here, sent youtube videos by my mother, and generally been inundated with questions by a number of well-meaning friends and acquaintances (all natural? epidural? which hospital? using a birthing pool? bringing music)???
The final straw, as weird as it may sound, was a BabyCenter.com email reminding me to write my birth plan. So I did. Sort of.

I stopped avoiding the matter and read through a bunch of information online, and I took notes on things that sounded right to me. (I even read some of the information in Spanish so that I would have some of the terminology down- yay me!) I draw the line at classes; there will be none of those. I feel like I need to know just enough to be informed and I'm fine with being in the dark about the rest of the details. This way I will just have to deal with things as they come and will not be bound to some text I wrote in the comfort of my living room.

Coincidentally, or not, a couple days after I finally wrote something down, we get news that Baby Boy will have to be carefully monitored during the birth (throwing out the whole laboring at home, walking around, dipping in the pool scenario I had envisioned), and there's even a chance for a C-section which is going from "definitely not" to "a real possibility". That's life.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Getting it done

If you've been following the blog, you may have noticed that the to-do list on the right side, has quickly been evolving to DONE status. I finally got the urge to hammer out a lot of projects, and I'm just a few days behind on the blogging part of it. So the details are coming, not to worry. And that's the explanation why a DONE status goes up several days before I mention anything.
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Worried

Baby Boy has got us pretty worried these days. It seems he's a tiny little thing and is just not growing very much these days. The doctor has assured us that developmentally he's fine, and that we shouldn't be worried. He said I'm not in any risk group and sometimes this just happens and they don't know why. Nevertheless we're going to keep an extra close watch on him these last few weeks to make sure he's getting enough blood and all that good stuff. The biggest cause for concern according to the doc is making sure he's not in distress during labor, and so for now the worst case scenario is a c-section. I really don't want to have surgery, but of course I'll do whatever is best for our little man. And despite all this, I'm just worried about Baby Boy and want him to grow, grow, grow as much as he can, before it's time to meet us.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Becoming a Crunchy Mama

I only heard of this term online, but I guess I am destined to become crunchy granola*. I'd like to think of it as an endearing term for a conscientious, environmentally/nutritionally-aware and involved mom. I'm not in denial of its snarky nature, but I just don't see it that way, so it doesn't bother me**.

Being "green" in Mexico is hard; it's still a developing country after all. When I bring re-useable bags to the grocery store, the bag-person always looks at me as if I'm a weirdo. Even after a year and a half here, my heart hurts a little every time I have to put a can or bottle in the trash. So I know I'm going to be quite the stand-out when it comes to decision I make for Baby Boy.

The middle to upper classes don't do things like breastfeeding or vaginally delivering children (because they can afford formula and a good hospital that will schedule a c-section; it's a status thing). They don't carry their children in slings because that's only for the poor that can't afford a stroller. And they definitely don't use cloth diapers! That is so 30 years ago.

I'm pretty lucky that the Wives already called me out long ago. They already know that when they need healthy, mostly veggie recipes I'm the source. Not one was surprised that I wanted to cloth diaper. And I've gotten nothing but support in terms of wanting Baby Boy to live in our room and have limited plastic junk around. But that's the exception. I'm already thinking that just dealing with the hospital here will be an uphill battle, but that's another post for another day.


*BTW, yes I eat a lot of granola and yes I make it myself at home (but there's nothing "weird" in it, and outside sources agree with me that it tastes good).

**I also don't care to impose my ideals on others, and don't mind that we are the only ones of our friends that live this "type" of lifestyle, if you can call it that; to each his own.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Nicknames

I feel like I should record the evolution of names that have come up...

The Baby
Little Eddy
Little Pated
Little Man
Little Guy
The Kid
Zrubavel- After learning that's what babies are referred to in Israel when they are still unnamed; we used it to make a reservation at Grafton St in Harvard Sq. Table for 4: Ed Zrubavel.

Friday, June 10, 2011

Layette

OR: Clothes

I've been dawdling around with Baby Boy's wardrobe for far too long. First I thought we would get a bunch of stuff on our USA trip. That was a no go. Then I thought I might get some at the baby showers, which I did. But after consulting several resources, I had maybe 2 or 3 day's worth of clothes and I really really don't want to do laundry every other day for that.

So I needed to stock up and I had been totally indecisive because boy clothes are just not that cute. I was sick of looking at light blue everything, and even though I know I should just get multi-packs of onesies, I want Baby Boy to be a little bit stylish. Sometimes I just wish we weren't "the first" to be having a kid, because some hand-me-downs would be totally welcomed, and solve my dilemma of how much to spend- quality/quantity/style-ity?

Once I realized how expensive clothes are down in Mexico, I started stalking a bunch of sites for sales and that only made me more crazy and frustrated. So I tried to go shopping locally again, this time dragging M along, and once he saw the prices he decided to get involved. I mentioned that I had seen a cute onesie on sale at the Gap, this one to be exact:


M agreed that it was cute. Saying of the day: "if I was a baby, I would want to hang out in these things [onesies] every day". So with our two laptops we managed to compile a good amount of stuff and get it ordered! Finally!

*The only kicker is that I won't be able to pre-wash, since we'll only be getting the clothes once our family comes down here. But for what we got, non-ugly-pretty-affordable-wardrobe, I can deal with that.

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Med School Baby Shower

Some of M's classmates wanted to have a baby shower for us and I was all over that. M was a bit reluctant since we both know that shower=spending money, and none of us have much of it. But, after a bit of conversation and consultation we agreed to have a little event. So Monica organized a Mexican style (=at a restaurant, nobody has to make food) shower, and it turned out really well!
When we first arrived nothing was set up, and I was a little worried. However, by the time everyone else arrived, the waiters had set up a large U-shaped table, decorations were up, and they even pulled out a little cart-shaped gift table. (I guess they've done this before).


For me the best part was that we had games- baby trivia, how many candies in the box, circumference of M and I hugging. We also ate (and some drank) well, and we had a really good group of people*. It was super nice that M was able to hang out with his friends and be celebrated as well, even though he claimed it was "for me". The staff was very attentive to our large group, and everything flowed (something I don't take for granted in this country). And for dessert we brought out a La Casita (chocolate w/cream cheese frosting) cake. Mmm...cake.


We also got lots of great gifts that are so appreciated because I know how difficult it is to shop for baby stuff here. It turned out to be a really fun evening and I really felt that Baby Boy was celebrated!



*The only bummer is that we both realized there are some pretty cool couples that we only started getting to know this semester, and it will probably be a lot more difficult to get to know them better once we have a baby. C'est la vie.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

(Over) Protective

Every week that goes by I feel better about the baby. At first I was worried- about miscarriage, pregnancy symptoms, my health and subsequently the baby's as well. Little by little I started to feel better about it. Around 24 weeks I breathed the first sigh of relief; at 31 weeks again, and now every day feels a little better. As I rapidly approach full term, my only real concern is some unknown genetic condition that the monthly ultrasounds couldn't pick up on. But otherwise I am feeling more happy and less concerned as the time goes by. (Could it be that I have almost gotten used to the crazy hormones?)

M, on the other hand, has become extremely protective of me. As the time has gone by, he has let me do less and less. At around the time that I was first starting to feel more confident, M began taking over the carrying of groceries, bring up of laundry and putting in our water bottles. As the time has gone on, he has been adamant about not letting me carry much, making sure I take my vitamins, and not get out of breath too much by cleaning like I used to. Sometimes, I feel he's a little over-protective; I'm not an invalid after all. I think, though, that as my belly has grown and movement can be not only felt, but seen, from the outside, the situation has become more real. Daddy's getting ready to take care of us, and that's a good feeling all in all.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Pregnancy and Birth: The Essential Checklists


So I know this is the third week in a row with a book review, but I just had to write this one. Actually I feel a bit like a cheater since I don't actually own this book, and read it almost in its entirety in one sitting online. Nevertheless, I love this book. It has all the information of all the other resources I have consulted yet a lot more concisely. And its advice is totally up to date, which is awesome. The main reason I liked it so much, though, is that the list format helps me see the big picture in a really organized manner, consequently put together my own to-do lists. It is also a quick glance to remember an answer to some random question I have, and in my current baby brain state, that is a godsend.

Monday, June 6, 2011

My Sciatic Nerve

is a pain in the ass. Literally. It won't let me sleep; it won't let me sit; it won't let me be. Instead I find myself running up and down, pacing around the house, flipping back and forth from side to side, and cringing every time.

At 34 weeks, I think I have more empathy now for the women that are really uncomfortable throughout their pregnancy. Because despite everything, I've been mostly lucky with my symptoms. They haven't overtaken my life, and even though they may slow me down, I am still the boss. For now.

Eddy says the new man is boss. Maybe. Or soon anyway.

I hope this is the worst of it. Actually I still think the week 15 constipation was worse. I'm ignoring the fact that in 4-8 weeks I might be in a lot more pain. Ok?

[Update- Since I first typed up this post a couple of weeks ago, the pain has been on and off but mostly gone away. I credit its disappearance with the diligent return of my daily walks].

Friday, June 3, 2011

Beach Baby

Our timing for the baby pretty much left us without a real vacation, so even though a full out Babymoon was not going to happen, I was really insistent that we would have at least one more visit to the beach before we were confined to the city for the remainder of the summer. And it turned out to be a really fun time! We went to Chacala, and stayed in a little studio complete with kitchenette. The beach was short enough that I didn't get tired walking along it, and the water was pleasantly warm. The best was being on the floaty, with my stomach being held up by the water, and even though I was huge I still had one bathing suit that fit, so thank goodness! We ate really well, our own snacks and fruit with some ice cream and seafood, particularly a 1.5 kilo grilled Sarape fish. And it was fun to just relax; we played scrabble and cards, read our books, and enjoyed the sound of the waves in the day and the AC at night. Baby Boy seemed to be content as well, kicking a lot throughout the whole weekend. It was too fun and I didn't want to come back.

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(at 34 weeks)

Thursday, June 2, 2011

The List

There are all kinds of things that I would like to prepare before the baby arrives, so that when we come back home, everything is set up. While my general goal has been to get it done before my due date, I'd actually feel better if we finished everything by week 38, (just in case, and also because I'm getting anxious to meet the little guy).

1- "Baby stuff" is bought - currently the only things we are missing are a crib and a bathtub (also changing the shower head to use with the tub)

2- Food- I've been working on cooking and freezing some meals for us. I need to do more of this. And make sure the "pantry" foods are stocked (peanut butter, granola, etc).

3- Cleaning- I want to have tried out a cleaning lady so that after Baby Boy is here we can call her up and know that she knows what to do.

4- Laundry- Type up a list of instructions, so that someone other than me can also do it and I won't be worried about how it's being done or try to take over myself.

5- Guest Preparation- I'm working on a phone number list for all our service providers, a touring list of what they can do to keep themselves occupied, and directions from the airport in case we can't pick them up.

6- Non-Baby Projects Finish- I really want to finish up some projects that I just haven't finished: wedding card book, photo books for our last few trips, etc.

7- Meet with the Rabbi- See what we need to do to plan the bris when the time comes.

8- Fumigate- I heard this horrible story of a spider bite, and want to avoid it at all costs.


And then there's some extra baby stuff I would like to do, but nothing will happen if I don't:

A- Start the Baby Book- Get album and put together the pregnancy related pages

B- Make toy attachment ribbons

C- Install a bidet (for myself and later use as a diaper sprayer)

D- Finish reading up on labor and breastfeeding

E- Make music playlists with classical music and white noise

F- Buy "extra" baby items (like floor tiles, sunscreen, more burp cloths, wipes)

G- Possibly write a birth plan

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

The Happiest Baby on the Block


The second book I read, was one recommended by the first book, and about 800 users on Amazon. Turns out that Harvey Karp is the guru of our generation, as everyone I've spoken to in person has read the book or watched the DVD. Only time will tell how the 5 S's (swaddle, side/stomach, shush, swing, suck) will work, but I did like the premise of the book. Even though it is a bit demagogue-ish in it's vocabulary: the fourth trimester, the cuddle cure, being held for 12 hours a day is only half of what the baby got in the uterus, etc, the ideas seem logical. I would have been interested to read more of the research behind it, the anthropological studies, but I understand it is written in a very simplified manner for the general public. I do like that it follows the ideas of attachment parenting and I like that the instructions for how to perform the S's are clearly laid out with diagrams and lots of explanations. Hopefully it works as well as it sounds.